Monday, December 17, 2012


So as I have thought over the past few days of what the heck to post today noting really seemed appropriate.  How can I talk about what color to paint your walls or what gift needs to be under your tree with all we have seen and heard over the past 3 days.  I know that in the following weeks, months, ect. there will be much political talk about gun control, mental illness, church and state, ect.  But the one thing that stood out to me the most about all the coverage was the lack of sympathy for Nancy Lanza?  Unless the media knows some big detail that we do not, I don't get it?  It seems she is the only one who truly loved Adam and was trying to help him in whatever ways she could.  There were reports that she was trying to get him into a college so that he may experience a more "normal" life.  With reports that his brother and father had lost touch with him for years, it seems she is the only family member that had not turned her back on him.  I know it is bad to think of the killer in situations like this yet all I can think is if more people showed him love would this have happened?  If you were the parent of  a child with any form of disability(mental or physical) wouldn't you want the best for them and to protect them as much as possible?

I can't remember who said it this weekend but someone described mental illness like kidney failure.  It is not something that anyone can predict a person to have or is brought on by ones own self (which many people think...and that to me is more crazy than the people they think are "crazy").  It's not like these people have smoked cigarettes and this is a result of a bad choice.  Yet how people with mental illness are treated by society is a controllable factor.  It has such a negative stigma today that I completely understand why so many families push it under the rug, don't want to see it, don't want the outside world to see that their family isn't "perfect."  Until people are directly affected by mental illness be it themselves or by a close loved one it seems they don't understand, thinking that mental illness is just a sign of weakness.

So I just wanted to maybe show a different perspective.  Every time I hear 26 victims, it kind of gives me chills.  We don't consider it 27?  What did the mother do besides what most mothers would?  One of the mothers of a Columbine shooter was interviewed this weekend and when asked "what would you say to your son if you could speak with him now?" she replied that "she would ask for forgiveness that she was his own mother and did not know what troubling and painful thoughts he was having and going through."  That took my breath away.

What would this society be like if everyone gave more love and compassion for others, even when they are "different" from you?

This is my really long 2 cents, and you don't have to agree with me, it just really bothered me that so many have referred to the victim count as 26 and not 27.  This was the only woman who seemed to be showing him love.

A few quotes that sum up what I'm trying to say...

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  1. "All you need is love, love, love is all you need."

  2. I must also add, "Be happy for this moment for this moment is your life." The recent tragedies - the shooting and the devastation of the hurricane - really puts a perspective on life. It's so, so important to appreciate what you have and those you love because ultimately, there may come a time when they are no longer there. People are so involved in the outcome of life that they miss actually living it. I think if people become more present, in the NOW, compassion and a renewed appreciation for life would inevitably follow!


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